Sid Tarpinian earned a MBA from the New York University Graduate School of Business and a M.A. in Counseling Psychology from National University. He is a California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with private practices in Long Beach and in Torrance. Sid’s areas of preference include couple therapy, grief and loss, mood disorders, stress and anger management, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). He received special training as a Collaborative Divorce Coach and to mediate parenting plans for divorcing couples with minor children.
Collaborative Divorce Coaches must be licensed mental health professionals. However, the role of a Collaborative Divorce Coach is not the same as a psychotherapist. Collaborative Divorce coaching is not therapy. Rather, coaches use their therapeutic skills and knowledge to help move the divorce process along more efficiently, generally resulting in less overall cost to clients.
Divorce ranks extremely high among stressful life events and a client’s stress would be the first thing I would address. When one is under a great deal of stress, the area of the brain that allows one to make good decisions can shut down. Coaching helps reduce the emotional intensity of divorce and the stress reduction techniques I teach clients should facilitate that process.
Coaches offer assistance in identifying and prioritizing the concerns of each individual, help to brainstorm options, and assist in setting short and long-term goals. In addition, coaches teach anger management and conflict resolution skills as well as more productive ways of communicating. As marital relationships/partnerships have many levels, coaches address issues of loss and grief that will inevitably surface.
We work collaboratively with the other involved professionals in order to improve communication, reduce misunderstandings, and help solve problems as they occur. Coaches also help find acceptable detours for unexpected roadblocks. A coach provides emotional support and guidance throughout the separation process.
If there are minor children, a coach can work with the children and parents in order to give the children a voice in their post-divorce future. Coaches help children navigate the process while working with the parents to develop an effective, flexible co-parenting plan in the best interest of the entire family.
Please feel free to call me with any additional questions you may have regarding collaborative divorce, how to begin, and the costs involved. I also offer a free 30 minute consultation in my office.
Averse to conflict himself, the Collaborative Divorce process immediately appealed to Sid. Divorce ranks high as one of the most stressful situations an individual or couple can experience. Sid’s stress management skills, his knowledge of the grieving process, mediation, and couples’ work can help clients who have chosen Collaborative Divorce to stay focused on their goals rather than on their positions. The goal of the process is to help clients make decisions that are in the best interest of the entire family and save them time and additional expense of an argumentative litigation process.
Sid is proud to be one of the founding members of Alternatives: A Collaborative Divorce Team, practicing in the South Bay and Long Beach and is looking forward to working with you.
Sid Tarpinian, MBA, M.A., LMFT
Adult Counseling and Psychotherapy
Certified in EMDR
Collaborative Divorce Coach