The Collaborative Divorce Coach’s Role in the Divorce Process
The main goal of the Collaborative Divorce Coach in the
Collaborative Divorce Process is to move the client from Point A to Point Z in the
quickest, most efficient way both financially and emotionally, always keeping in mind
that the best interest of all parties, especially minor children, is served.
The Collaborative Divorce Coach must be a licensed mental health professional that
is trained in the Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Process. It is important to
know that the Collaborative Divorce Coach does not act as a psychotherapist and can
never provide therapy services to this Collaborative Divorce client. Because licensing
is necessary, the same confidentiality requirements apply, except that the
Collaborative Divorce client signs a waiver to permit the free exchange of information
among all the Collaborative Divorce Team members in order to facilitate the
Each spouse will have his or her own Collaborative Divorce Coach. If there are minor
children, a Collaborative Child Specialist will help formulate a custody and co-parenting
The Collaborative Divorce Coach will provide short and long term education including
stress and anger management techniques, communication, conflict resolution, and
self-management skills, grief and loss work, as well as emotional support and guidance
through the divorce process. The Coach may suggest referrals to any collateral
professionals such as a vocational consultant if needed. The Coach will facilitate
communication between the clients and all Collaborative Divorce team members, work to
reduce misunderstandings between all parties, assist in solving problems and finding
suitable detours for unexpected roadblocks that might arise.
The Collaborative Divorce Coach offers assistance in identifying and prioritizing
the concerns of each individual, setting short and long term goals, and minimizing the
distressing feelings that often arise during the divorce process. The Coach will
emphasize that the clients themselves are in charge of defining their post-divorce
future. The Collaborative Divorce Coach will support the clients in defining and
implementing a plan that is fair and equitable for all parties.
Should the Collaborative Divorce process end prematurely with the clients deciding
to pursue litigation, the Collaborative Divorce Agreement requires the immediate
disqualification of the Collaborative Divorce Coach and that no information will be
provided to the court. In addition, the Collaborative Divorce Coach will not be
available to either party as a coach or a therapist in the future.